Marriage with bad intentions is not a blessing

 

Marriage with bad intentions is not a blessing

Marriage With Bad Intentions Is Not A Blessing

A very well-educated and prosperous family settled their daughter's relationship and instead of getting engaged by mutual consent of both the families, marriage was preferred and the leave was taken a year later. Six months have passed and one day a direct message came from Nowshah Mian that the girl should wear burqa and cover all her cousins ​​and not say any dua salam to them. The girl's parents asked the boy if he was able to provide a separate house for our daughter after marriage according to the Shari'ah, where there was no passage for a non-mahram, no interference from the in-laws and no The burden of serving and obeying any in-laws should be on the daughter. 

The boy could not give any meaningful answer to this. He himself was a resident of a common house where many other brothers were also present. Nor was he highly educated and had a new job in which he could not afford a rented house for many years to come. Her parents tried hard to handle the matter but the eyes of the girl's parents had seen from afar what would happen to this marriage in the future. He did not agree to less than a divorce and thus a house was abandoned before he could settle down. 

There is no debate as to whether the boy's demand and the girl's parents' inflexible stance were correct. The only question is why the boy did not express his desire before marriage? What was the motive behind imposing Shariah on a girl after putting her in her name for six months? By the way, let us tell you that this girl had a relationship in her own family after a short while and got married with great fanfare. Couldn't find out about the boy's condition, otherwise we would have written here. 

Another acquaintance divorced a girl because her husband wanted her to wear a burqa. The girl belonged to a very well educated and fashionable family while the in-laws were very religious and religious people. He thought that after marriage we would adapt the girl to our environment but it did not happen. This girl made it a matter of her ego. She was of the opinion that I was liked to see her in this situation. In any case, he got married in another place and had children, but this girl could never get married again because in all her endeavors, she became notorious as a strong and rebellious girl. ? Another story is that a young man who was working abroad did not come home for two or three years despite the annual leave from the company and the family kept sending him pictures of different girls from time to time. Sometimes he would avoid it and sometimes if he agreed, the family would come up with some sort of excuse and end the conversation. 

After many years of gimmicks, the two finally agreed on a girl, the relationship was settled and the young man returned home and got married immediately. And just a week later, he told his wife, "I don't want you to make eyebrows again." The girl was shocked because her husband's house but also the other house of the women of the whole family was a beauty parlor. There was no fashion that she did not do. In such a situation, this person who was neither very religious nor his appearance was according to any religion and who used to pay for the beauty parlor yatra of his sisters and brothers-in-law out of his own pocket, demanded from his wife that he should go home himself. I would never make eyebrows either. 

Of course it was amazing. Rightly this girl also asked the same question that in the picture that was sent to you for my liking, my eyebrows could be seen by any blind person when you were so against them, knowingly I How did you like it In fact, he had at one time, in a gathering of friends, enthusiastically preached that after marriage, my wife would not make eyebrows, and even if she did, I would close them. Now the problem of his ego was that if his wife did not obey him, he would face humiliation among his friends and for the sake of his honor, his wife would have to sacrifice her passion or need. Surprisingly, this young man did not bet with his friends that I would keep my married woman with me at all costs, I would not leave her alone with non-mahram relationships, I would not enslave her whole family. 

His whole religion and sharia was stuck only between his wife's eyebrows and he had nothing to do with the rest of the orders. If this girl was stubborn in the same way that I was liked by looking at her in the same way and why she did not make it clear before marriage what she disliked? So what would be the outcome of this marriage? It was decided with the same assurance that the girl would be called by her husband very soon and this could not happen for years. There are many more similar cases. Here are just three examples. If the basis of a sacred relationship like marriage is based on lies and falsehoods that will be seen once and for all, then how will it be blessed?